Okay, it would take a looong time to explain the full thing but I'll just explain my current situation. (Hope you read this Nekonya xD)
Well my boyfriend Aoi, he's from japan and we knew each other for about 3 years now and he was supposed to leave 2 and half years ago but he didnt want to cuz of me he said >.> So he stayed but now he went back to Japan and he says he might be there for 4-5 years *NOOO He said he would understand if I dont wait for him since its a long time but I want to wait, Thing is, Im stressing with EVERYTHING *OMG I really am thinking of ending it and staying away from relationships for awhile but i really dont know. He says he MIGHT be able to come back but I dont know if I'll still love him. We've been through so much stuff to be together and now its gonna end like that? No proper farewell? He just left for the airport and I heard about it and went there and only got to yell a goodbye and I had to hear his bye and everything through text message!What kinda guy does that?! So me being the idiot I am, Im still waiting for him but Im starting to think is it worth it? *??

The question is:
Do I wait for him?

Please help me *EYES I have no idea what to do anymore, a little advice would help GREATLY.

4-5 years is a long time to wait and (don't take this the wrong way) but you're still pretty young, you're both going to change a lot in that time

also long distance relationships are really difficult on both people... it's hard not to be able to see the person you love, and usually it takes a very committed couple to do so (ie a married couple... but even still, long distance stuff on married couples is very taxing)

i think you should give yourself some time and space... one thing you could do is that both of you officially breakup but remain as good friends... i mean this will give both of you the chance to meet other people, grow a little, change a little, but also you'll still be in touch and who knows, maybe in the future you'll get back together or maybe you'll just be really good friends

so that's my advice... good luck!! *GOOD

*HMMM Ann-chan... As I can see You're very confused right now.. so it will be better if you will think of the matter first all over again.. You said that you feel like ending it and try staying away from relationships for a while.. but you're not sure because your boyfriend said that he might be able to come back..

so I can say that you already have this doubt about him.. You're not already sure if you still love him or not.. so it will be better if you will figure out what feelings you still have for him.. *?? it will help you a lot.. especially in deciding if you'll give up the relationship or so..

so better think carefully if you really really really love him.. because I believe that if it is Yes.. no matter how long it is you'll still wait.. and still love him no matter what just like you do before..and I also believe that if he really loves you that much then he'll do the same thing..

that's what I seriously think..*??

so all I can say is.. figure it out FIRST if you still really do love him.. before deciding what to do.. because you might regret it at the end.. *GOOD

and oh.. I like the side of your boyfriend wherein he told you that if you can't wait for him then he'll understand.. I mean he's not selfish.. he's so considerate and really think of you..

Long distance relationships are very hard but they might work too. Like suggested already by Mich, you should try figure out if you really love him and either way it seems that you do like him very much. I would try to stay in touch with him, if nothing else as friends. You're probably hurting very much right now, so it would be good if you distracted yourself, try focusing on a hobby or spend time with your family and friends.

*GOOD

*DROP Such good advice, I don't have anything to say after that~ *XD


But I will say this; Good luck *GOOD and I hope you solve this problem~


My bad advice; Believe in him and in yourself~! *ROLL I'm sure he'll come back and will still be in love with you~ If not, then he never really loved you~ Or maybe he didn't know that love is more powerful than just kissing and liking each other like a couple would. Love is stronger and it makes us do anything~ *XD So, if he really loves you, then he'll come back~


Also, do you mind me asking, how old are you~? *?? I mean, it depends on how old you two are to determine the advice~ *DUNNO If you're young, then he might fall in love with someone else. Or if he's young, but still loves you~ But then, there are many possiblities~ @@ Gosh, I mean, it's just confusing now~ Ignore me~ *DROP


But don't be worried from my advice~ *XD Just believe in yourself and in him~ Trust him, and yourself that you will keep your relationship~ *LOVE If not, then ~ *DUNNO

Also, he might have left like that, so that he doens't upset you~ *XD Some guys are clueless of stuff like that~ *XD Maybe he thought it'd make you less stressful if he just left~ Also, I think my advice is horrible; don't listen to me~

Good Luck again *GOOD
Keep us updated~!! *ROLL

Hahaha, thanx sooo much for the advice everyone *ROLL
Though one thing is.... I called him to see if he really will come back cuz a couple of situations have pccured and I wanted to clear it up and he tells me
"Maybe we should break up since you're stressing for everyone and its hard enough with me, isnt it?" I was shocked, that meant Rika had told him I've been panicking and getting myslef sick from too much stress. I was annoyed, thats the 3rd time he said it to me, so I told him to call me when he figures out what HE wants. Yes, I love him, I think I would be able to wait for him but its just ALL my friends want me to help them with their love problem and they never help me with my problems, they're never there for me, thats the cause of my stress and Aoi being gone is kinda making me feel alone but I could deal with it. I do trust him that he wouldnt find someone else, we've been through a lot of stuff:
His parents hating me dating him (they didnt mind me when we were friends)
My parents and kendo friends hating him (they said Im being taken away from them *DROP )
Then there was all my "friends" telling me to break up with him cuz Im not good enough (I stopped hanging with them)
Also there was him supposedly dating another girl (there was a good reason he was faking it but that takes too long to explain)
and there was much more *SIGH
Hmm, well Im 15 and hes 16 and I say hes actually quite mature for his age xD Thats not common for guys, no offense to them *XD So he called me an hour after that and said we should break up but still be friends, Im fine with that and all. I think maybe when he comes back we might get together, never know but for now we're just gonna be friends and talk over phone and msn. I was so scared he was just gonna text me my answer, hahaha.
Well thanx for all the advice, you guys are awsome *LOVE

oh that's good Ann-chan.. *GOOD and I'm really glad that we helped you a lot! *COOL

and you know..I can understand your feelings... some of my friends are like that too in HS.. and There's a time when I felt like I'm just being used by them.. *SIGH since they're always there beside me if they ONLY have problems.. and when the time comes that I need them.. there were like " *MNO sorry but we have our problems too..." they didn't particularly said those but whenever I had problems and try speaking with them about it.. they're ignoring me.. =___=

and I felt like I want to say this things to them.. *THROW "but why is it whenever you have problems you always come to me and ask for advices.. I mean Hello?! *WHAT Don't you think I have my own problems too and now that I need you, you're telling me now that you can't help me?! *WHAT but I didn't manage to say those things to them.. it's already too much for me..

they'll just listen a min then just go changing the topic.. *DROP.. It was really sad .. and you know I was taking a lot of stress by myself too.. *SIGH Since I'm also the Class President of our class.. *SIGH it's really hard... maybe that's also the reason why I've been this matured.. because I've been in a lot of stress... and taking them only by myself.. *WIPE and sometimes I also felt like I'm alone.. . *WIND and most of the time I thought that "oh I have to figure out how to handle this by myself because there's no one around that's going to help me.."

it's really hard... and it really sad *ARM

*WIPE ugh.. I think I ranted a lot *WIPE sorry about that.. I just want to share this with you guys.. *SIGH

Keeping in touch with him sounds good, Ann-chan. *GOOD

If you're meant to be together it will happen and I hope that you'll be good friends until then, since you both have been through a lot together already. Hope it will be fine in the end for you. *ROLL

@Mich: people you're talking about aren't friends but merely leeches, which suck out all of ones energy. Being with such selfish people is just a waste of time, you should simply leave them behind and find people, who won't take you for granted and will be there for you when you need them. *GOOD

Awww, thanx guys, I feel loved here *ROLL
In a differen manga forum I asked for advice with our relationship when people were starting to try and ruin it and I thought everyone was nice but it turns out they said I was lying and dont believe anything I said *RUN i really couldnt believe it, all if them seemed so nice and then when we were talking on msn and they didnt know it was me cuz only my email adress was on, we were talking happily and stuff and when I said its Ann-chan they left *DROP I was kinda thinking they were pathetic but they can believe what they want, not my problem *DUNNO
@ mich: Awww, you deserve a hug xD Thats mean of them. Class Prez *SHOCK woah, thats tough and no one to help?! Isnt there at least ONE nice person? Thats not nice to dump everything on you even if you are the class prez.

Ann-chan.. *ARM gosh.. of course We do love you here.. and that people deserve to be *THROW *SANDAL *SOCCER *KNIFE *GLINT.. *LOLZ *POINT *EVIL


*DUNNO but what you just aid is right.. Believe what they want.. we can't force them to believe us if they really don't want to and we can't please everybody anyways..*DUNNO

that is also the reason why I love SH *ROLL.. people here are truly nice... unlike in other forums.. *SIGH some of them are very strict.. control freaks *THROW and some are so unfriendly..

anyways, *ARM thank you very much Ann-chan and Master.. *ROLL.. actually there's also a Vice Pres.. Secretary, Treasurer and so on and so forth.. but *SANDAL all they do is chat during meetings.. they don't care about the class at all.. *SANDAL and what's worst.. if there's a mistakes or ruckus going on the whole class.. I'm always the one who's blamed *SANDAL and always the one who's called to fix it.. *THROW

Ann-chaaaan!!!!! *LOVE *LOVE
I'm really uber uber sorry that i haven't answered to this earlier!!!!!! *RUN
*BIGBIGAPOLOGY HUG!!!!!*

I HAVE LIKE SO TOTALLY MISSED YOU!!!! *NOOO *RUN *SHOCK

I hope your stress goes off *CHOMP *CHOMP !!!
And its good that you guys broke up, you don't need to stress about it anymore, and when Aoi comes back maybe you two can be girlfriend and boyfriend if you guys start to like each other again *LOVE *ROLL

Thinking of Aoi's attitude , i don't think he'll stop loving you *XD (* sigh* he's so mean to me *XD )

Once i asked him will he miss you (when he went to that business trip instead of his Father), he said it very rudely to me :" Ofcourse I will!!, what did you think?!" *XD *XD

*huggggggg ann-chaaan!!!* *ROLL

Hahaha, awww Nekonya, I wuv you! *LOVE
That was kinda rude *XD And he said you sucked in maths, what a meanie *DROP I miss you too *NOOO Though there's always msn! xDD
Maybe Aoi and me will get back together, never know *DUNNO but for now we'll just be friends and I think that'll be good.
Hope to talk with you soon *EYES
Hope schools fine and so was all those EXAMS/TEST! *EVIL
Now I've gotta get to school *RUN

It' time to get serious with school.. *WIPE