I don't know how to start....umm, okay. There's this guy called Vincent and he'll be turning 20 in september. Well I've liked him for awhile now and he likes me too but there's a couple of problems. 1. Im 13 and he's 19 nearly 20 and 2. Everyone else but Ann-chan, my parents and Amanda, don't want him near me. Everyone knows vincents a nice guy but it's just the age gap. We only hug and play around, NOTHING ELSE. He told me he loves me but he can't ever be with me 'cause he wants to be a teacher *DROP I know I can't do anything about it if it's his decision. He told me to not bother with him anymore and to stay away from him. I learned that was only because Josh threatened him (Josh is a lawyer). William is also a lawyer but he doesn't mind as long as I'm happy *DROP (Im doted on 'cause Im the youngest at the Kendo club xD) So Vincent has been dating other girls and all of them are like me =__= They like all the same things as me, act the same as me and it just annoys the hell out of me! It was stupid of me to evev fall for him in the first place, I know. Then a week ago he tells me that he's going to Japan to teach for awhile *SHOCK I was so depressed about that and he says he'll leave about half way through the year but he's not too sure. I hate this chocking feeling I have in my throat, I hate the feeling like Im gonna die, it's so weird! I hate it sooo much but it wont go away. Then the whole kendo group decided to go watch a movie and vincent didnt come, though that didnt really matter. Though after the movie, we waked out of there and I saw him there with Nat! She is soooo annoying and I hate her!! She knows I hate her, so she came up to me and was asking me how I was, while she was holding onto vincent. I felt so depressed and I was dizzy and I passed out *DROP That was so pathetic of me =__=
When I woke up, she was there like she was my mom or something! I told her to fuck off (sorry for the language xD) and she just decided to tell me she was going with vincent to japan! *SHOCK I hate this so much and don't know what to do anymore. I wish I dont have any feelings for him but it wont go away. Also it doesn't help much when he's always texting/calling me and visiting my school! I try to stay away and I tell him to go away but he wont *NOOO
I don't know what to do anymoooore! *NOOO *NOOO *NOOO

*WIPE

Honestly girl, if he doing dis shit to you, he ain't worth it. Not to mention, I think he's doing it on purpose so you'll stop liking him...which you should. Cuz he's 19 and if he does anything to you it'll be rape...gosh you're just his younger sister to him or something right *WIPE That's nasty if he takes advantage of his younger sister!! *EH

Anyway...all I can really say is to play the same game back at him if you really wanna. :x Go get some guy to make him jealous~ And then when he's gone for Japan then you can get over him and stick with guys your own age who aren't pedophiles hitting on their little sisters.

i agree with Cheebs

you should hang out with guys closer to your own age.... being interested in someone that much older can't lead to a healthy relationship for either person and will only create drama in both of your lives

if he's leaving soon, then look forward to that as a chance to move on past him and find some people your own age

good luck!

*CHOMP *CHOMP *CHOMP goodness... *GEEK Honestly what Cheebs and Berry said is right.. You should hang out with someone closer to your age.. *DUNNO

Having Relationship with someone that much older is hard.. but it depends if you can handle it..

but based on what you said.. it looks like Vincent wants you to forget about your feelings for him and move on and so is he... so it will be better if you'll just do it.. I know it's hard but you have to try.. and for sure You'll get over with him!~ *GOOD

I'm sure there's a lot of guys out there with same age as you... hanging out with them is great.. because most likely you have the same interests and so on.. *GLINT

so yeah... move on!! and Good luck! *GOOD

*SIGH So true, but I don't want to agree~ *DROP I know there are weird people in the world, but I don't like to think about them much~ *SIGH Maybe this guy is like that or he just wants to toy with you~ *DROP It may be like that, so just stay with guys near your age~ I think the most age difference between a couple should be 1-3 years~ Because if it's over 5 or something, then it's really weird and there are some things/interests/knowledge that don't match and it just doesn't feel right when your with that person~ *DROP I have no clue what I'm typing, but one thing I'm sure of; Cheebs is right~ *XD So, be careful!~


By the way; Good luck and keep us updated~! *GOOD

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I can only agree with everyone, the age difference is definitely too much. It wouldn't matter as much if you were like 18 already, but right now you better stay away from him and find someone your age. You both would be in trouble if you didn't. *RUN

I'm sure you'd have more fun with people of your age too. *GOOD

Well, you know, my boyfriend is 5 years older than me, but I'm 20 now so. *WIPE So yeah being in a relationship where there's such a huge age gap can be difficult, because you and your partner are both at different points in your life, therefore can make understanding each other hard. BUT since you're a 13 year old girl...you're a little baby!!!!!!!!! NO KID AROUND MY AGE SHOULD BE DATING A BABY *SHOCK

yeah i think age difference matters less and less as you get older... like if you're 50 dating someone 40... that could work, you know? because you're both essentailly at the same points in your lives... but 19 and 13... not so much (even though that's only 6 years and 50/40 is 10)

always remember this rule (this is btw the "rule" for what's an acceptable relationship and not pedophilia (in the US at least)):

(age of older person/2) + 7 = acceptable date-able age of younger person

All what they say is right . The age gap is too big . To be honest , a guy who's age is that far away may be just toying wif you . u should find a guy which is abt the same age as u x) .