well...this has been bugging me and stuff and if no one has advice ok... *CHOMP

well... my parents are divorced and i visit my dad on the weekends but he keeps insisting i move in with him (and his fiance) when i really live with my mom which i had for 14 years basically when i was born to now and i want to live with my dad but my parents start fighting of who i should go to and i lose courage cause of the fights and say i dont want to move when really i do...right now im in the beginning where the fights might start (fight=verbally) and i really enjoy being at his place than my mom's.....

feels better to get that off my chest now a little *ROLL ...

*MSNIFF That must be such a difficult situation to be in.

I'm not very good with advice, but I think that if you really do think that you'd rather live with your dad, you should say so. I don't know how good your relationship is with you mom, but I think you need to take the time to just let her know exactly how you are feeling and hopefully she'll be understanding and try to take into consideration what you want. I know that it is a scary thing to be telling your mom you'd rather live with your dad, but if you are not happy with your living situation, then it might be good in the long run.

Otherwise, I think you should at least tell each of your parents separately that you do not like how they are fighting where you should be living. If they are aware of how much their fighting is affecting you, they may try harder not to do so.

Anyways, I know that this is probably really hard on you, but I wish you the best and hope things get better. *ROLL

I think that if you are really more happy living at your dad's place, then you should tell your mom. I'm sure she wants you to be happy. Of course, she might not be too open to the idea, so maybe ask her if you can try it out and see how it goes for 2 weeks or so. That might help to ease her into letting you live at your dad's place. Also, you've only visited your dad on the weekends, and you might not like it if you live there all week, so this is also a good chance to see if you will get used to living with your dad more often. Whatever you do, it's always best to talk to your parents, don't lose courage because they are your parents and will listen to what you have to say. *BANZAI

That's tough. Wanting to live to live with another parent's while you are already live with the current parent for so long.

I think part of your mother's argument is due to her thinking your father is persuading you to leave her, pick him over her basically. You have to let her know that you actually like to live with your father and not due to him persuading/brainwashing you.

It will definitely hurt your mom when you try to tell her that you really want to live with your father right now (if you have the courage that is). The best you can do is tell her you just want to try living in another house. Since you already spend much of your teenager year in her house. Just want to experience something different. Like living in a dorm. Promise her you will visit her every weekend and such.

My parents are divorced too and I never thought of living with my father since I don't like him much.

my friends parent's are also divorced, and she is sorta in the same situation, except she doesn't like her dad, so.... *DROP

My other friend is also in the same situation with the weekend thing. She lives with her dad on weekends, and mom on weekdays. She hates her stepmom though.... *NOOO

You should tell your parents that you really don't want them to fight, and want the best for both of them. They should listen to you, since they love you, and if you want to move, tell them! You could call your mom everyday or something. Talk to your mom privately....she might not be as mad then.... hope it works out!!!!!!!!! *GOOD

I am sorry if my advice doesn't help *RUN *RUN

Liz *EYES *DROP

thanx everyone *ROLL

did it work out???

well.....a tiny bit *DROP but its gettin more dramatic *SIGH

Will your mom be alone if you move out? *??

Maybe you should try to reverse your living situation..live with your dad, but visit your mom during the weekends

yea she would but said it was ok but now she's not letting me spend more than the weekend there *CHOMP

aw... your mom should respect your decision, after all you are the one going back and forth...

Liz

But how do you think her mom is felling since it's like she's losing her child.

This may be a little late, but hey better late than never.

How close do your parents live? If you wouldn't have to change schools why don't you do a six month split? Half the year with one parent half the year with the other. Holidays and weekends of course should be split between parents.

When my parents were getting a divorce I lived with my mom for two months. She drove me crazy, I loved her but I couldn't live with her at all. It was difficult but in the long run it was a much better decision to live with my dad.

Before you officially move in with your dad, try living there about a month. Since you only go there on the weekends it may seem like a nice deal because your dad may be afraid of being strict with you like your mom.

Also when bringing this up with your mom, tell her you love her, but don't raise your voice even if she does. ::Remembers long ago days of fights::

Just because you love someone doesn't mean you can live happily with them.

yep, im a few months late o.o
Like she says, better late than never x3

Talk to ur parents, they're still there for you no matter where you live.
No matter who you're staying with or switching between, do something that will connect you two closer. ^^ Work out a plan and be flexible? =]

My cousin (who's more of a sister) used to live beside me. Her parents just recently got divorced and she was pretty bummed. She didn't even like her dad that much o.0'' Buuut, I'm going off topic v.v''

this is not an advice though... *ROLL


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